How to Get Unstuck and Find the Job You Love in 4 Simple Steps

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We’ve all been there. Stuck in a job that feels like it’s sucking the very life out of us the moment we step into the office. 

I used to tell myself that it would get better. It’s just a one-off.

And I continued down that road for 1.5 years before I finally called it quits.  

Maybe you’re in a similar situation. Your job feels like it’s draining you of every little bit of happiness and joy you have. Even after you leave work, that nagging feeling follows you. Eventually, it creeps into all the other areas of your life.  

Yet, try as you might, you just can’t seem to walk away from the job even though it makes you miserable.  

And, the misery continues, and time ticks as you spend your precious days doing something that’s neither fulfilling nor inspiring. 

Not everyone chooses to stay stuck in a rut.  

Some people take a chance, embrace the risk and fear of leaving, and embark on a new journey to find a more meaningful job and career.  

But, how do they do it?

That’s precisely what we’re going to explore in this article and help you find the job you love!

When I think about my journey to find my dream job and career, a few integral parts were pivotal in the process. So, let’s jump in.

How to Get Unstuck and Find the Job You Love

1. It's Scary and Uncomfortable (and...that's normal)

One of the scariest things you can do is walk away from your job. Now, if you make a lot of money at the job, have been there for years, have a lot of friends at that company, and have a great boss, then the decision is even more daunting.  

As human beings, we don’t like being afraid. In fact, our brains have evolved to keep us safe from risk, even when we don’t want them to.  

So, when it comes to finding a new job or career that you love, be advised that your brain will go haywire.  

Your brain is designed to keep you in your comfort zone. 

Think about a significant decision you’ve recently made. Let’s say you’re contemplating getting a new car, exciting, right?  

You create your plan and start looking at cars. And, you find the perfect one. Now when you go to purchase it, what comes up? 

Does your brain kick in and throw you into overwhelm with a flurry of thoughts and emotions?  

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For example, do you second guess what type of car you’re getting, wonder if you’re making a mistake, and worry about how much it’s going to cost you, even if it’s going to dramatically improve your life? 

There’s no reason to be upset with your brain; it’s just doing its job. It’s trying to keep you safe from what it perceives to be a dangerous situation.   

But, sometimes, avoiding “risk” is the very best way to ensure that you will continue to be unhappy and unfulfilled. To be alive as a human being necessitates new growth and learning. To grow and learn, you have to step outside what’s comfortable.  

Deciding to leave an unfulfilling job is scary. And it is uncomfortable. The sooner you accept and even plan for the fear and uncertainty that comes from the decision, the sooner you’ll start feeling better about what you’re doing and dramatically improve the quality of your life.  

If you’re thinking about leaving an unfulfilling job and finding the career of your dreams, decide now and then start looking. You will never be in the perfect position or “ready” to do something that scares or makes you uncomfortable. All you need to do is make a decision that you’re doing it and that it’s okay to be scared. And then do it. Once you accept that fear is part of the journey, you can start leaning into it rather than resisting it. 

2. You Have a Purpose

One of the main reasons many of my coaching clients start working with me is because they feel confused or stuck in their current careers.

We live in a society where money and status are prioritized over happiness and fulfillment.  

Now, hear me out before you tell me that I’m living in Candy Land and you have bills to pay.  

What if instead of having to choose between a life that inspires and fulfills you and money (being able to pay your bills), you could have both. 

You can be very wealthy and very happy. You don’t have to be happy and poor or unhappy and rich.  

Instead of selling yourself short and choosing jobs based on the amount of money you’ll be making, the title, or the role, start following your bliss.  

If you stopped reading right now and wrote down 5 things that meant a lot to you and that you enjoyed doing, you would have more than enough information to start researching jobs and careers that reflected what brought you happiness.

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Whether you believe that you have a purpose or not, you have preferences about the type of work that you want to do. Use what you already know (your preferences) to start researching potential jobs and careers.  

Once you have a better idea of the industries or careers you’re interested in, you can start doing more micro-level research and find positions and roles that provide you with the income you want to support your lifestyle.  

The important thing here is to recognize that you can have a career that pays you what you want and allows you to contribute to the world in a way that means a lot to you and creates more joy in your life.  

Finding a job and career that you love really is as simple as getting clear on what inspires you and brings you the most joy in your professional and personal life.  

I encourage my clients to keep a running list of everything that brings them happiness and creates a deep sense of purpose in their lives. Once you have this list, you can start researching possibilities and eventually find a career and work that you actually look forward to every day.  

Learn how to live your best life faster.

My coaching program is all about getting you results.  I’ll help you to:

  • Improve Your Mindset
  • Find Your Passion
  • Grow Your Self Confidence
  • Overcome Your Fears
  • Land Your Dream Job
  • Make More Money
  • Be Happier
  • Develop Healthy Habits 
  • Improve Your Productivity
  • Identify Your Strengths
  • Set and Accomplish Meaningful Goals
  • Get Motivated
  • Overcome Procrastination 
  • Get More Life Clarity
  • Eliminate Distractions
  • Start Your Dream Business 
  • Overcome Fatigue and Burnout
  • Step into Your True Potential

3. Failure is Your Friend

Earlier I mentioned that being scared and uncomfortable as you find the job you love is totally normal. Well, get ready because we’re adding a third piece to the puzzle. 

Get ready to fail a lot.  

Part of learning new things is falling on your face, being a total amateur, fumbling through, and making many mistakes.  

When you realize this part of the process, it suddenly carries a lot less weight because the more you fail, the more you learn.  

Rather than trying to perfect every aspect of your job search journey, just start taking action.  

Using the running list of everything you enjoy, start where you are right now. If you have zero clues about what you want to do in your professional life, start writing down everything you do know right now.  

Chances are you know what kind of work environment you want, the ideal type of manager you prefer, the types of people you’d like to be around and work with daily.  

You know much more than you are likely giving yourself credit for. This knowledge isn’t as accessible or noticeable because your brain is trying to keep you in your comfort zone, safe.  

Recognizing that your brain is likely trying to keep you in the dark is critical here because you can acknowledge your brain for trying to keep you safe and then move forward anyway, knowing that there’s a good possibility that you will fail and that’s okay.  

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One of the most common things I see in the job and career search process is mismanaged expectations about how the job search will play out. This desire to control every aspect of the process hampers creativity and usually only leads to more stress.  

Rather than focusing on how it’s going to happen, start paying attention to the type of person who would be able to navigate the process with success.  

Focusing on the who rather than how allows you to create more belief and confidence in yourself rather than how it will happen. Because if you knew how to get a job you loved, you’d have it already.  

Focusing on who will put you in place to understand the how and then take action, knowing that failure is part of the process.  

4. You Have to Keep Going

As we head for home base, the last integral part of the process is one of the most important things you do in any part of your life; to keep going.

You can’t quit.  

You have to keep moving forward, even if it’s one inch at a time.  

There will be times when you feel like giving up. Maybe you’ve applied to over 100 different jobs (I did), and you haven’t gotten a single call-back.  

You have to keep going.  

Finding a job and career you love is not a one-and-done thing.  

It is a journey.  

As you progress through your career, your interests may change, what you value might change, your circumstances will change, and all of these things impact the ideal career for you. Knowing and planning for additional changes is part of that process.  

Your ideal job right now might not be suitable in 5 years. Just knowing that there is the potential for change and being okay with it invites so much more enjoyment and excitement right now.  

Knowing that whatever you’re doing right now, whether you enjoy it or not, is not permanent. At any point in time, you can change what you’re doing if you so, please.  

That’s why it’s so important to keep going. This is a journey, not a destination. And, if you want to find a job you love that really inspires you to be the very best version of yourself, you have to be willing to continually follow what makes you want to hop out of bed because you know you’re doing what you were meant to.  

If you implement these ideas in your search for the job you love, you will experience less stress and more enjoyment.  

Changing jobs has the propensity to be one of the most stressful situations. But, accepting that it’s going to be scary and uncomfortable, that you have a purpose and calling, and that failing is part of the process and evidence that you must keep going even when you want to quit will eventually land you a job, career, and life that inspires and fulfills you.  

You will find the job you love and make the difference you want in the world.  

I know you can do this, so get out there do it!

Learn how to live your best life faster.

My coaching program is all about getting you results.  I’ll help you to:

  • Improve Your Mindset
  • Find Your Passion
  • Grow Your Self Confidence
  • Overcome Your Fears
  • Land Your Dream Job
  • Make More Money
  • Be Happier
  • Develop Healthy Habits 
  • Improve Your Productivity
  • Identify Your Strengths
  • Set and Accomplish Meaningful Goals
  • Get Motivated
  • Overcome Procrastination 
  • Get More Life Clarity
  • Eliminate Distractions
  • Start Your Dream Business 
  • Overcome Fatigue and Burnout
  • Step into Your True Potential

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PS:

If you feel like you’re circling the drain because you’ve done everything you know to find a more fulfilling career and still come up short, keep on reading.  

Nothing’s worse than feeling stuck in a job you hate.

It is possible to have a job you love.

Think about having a job and career that you look forward to.  How good would it feel to leave work every day knowing that you made a difference in the world and actually enjoyed the work you were doing?  

It’s not a fluke, it is possible and I can help.  

If you feel stuck in your career, click on the link here to set up a free consultation where we’ll learn more about each other, your situation, and whether or not coaching is right for you in your career right now.

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