3 Ways to Be Confident in Yourself & Your Job Search

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We’ve all been there before, unsure of ourselves, wondering if we can actually pull it off and land a new job.

When I started my Ph.D. I spent the first year of the program anxious as a long-tail cat in a room full of rocking chairs. My biggest fear was that it was all a mistake, and I didn’t have what it took to succeed in the program.

I even believed that I wasn’t as smart as everyone else in the program, that I was a fraud that would soon be exposed and kicked out.

Spoiler alert- I finished quicker than most of the other students in my cohort.

How to Be More Confident in Yourself

We doubt our greatness all the time. Whether it’s in our jobs, relationships, or other areas of our lives, we often sell ourselves short.

This, unfortunately, comes with some serious consequences. Because in doing so, we discount everything that makes us, us. Our gifts, talents, and skills that make us shine the most are put on the back burner, and what we get out of life is so much less than it could be.

But, it doesn’t have to be that way.

You can decide to start believing in yourself and reach your true potential at any point in your life. It’s never too late, and it’s not impossible.

When it comes to your career, especially if you’re considering a career change, this is infinitely true because your beliefs in yourself come through in almost every part of the job search process.

Believing in yourself and your abilities can literally make or break your job search. So, it’s essential to understand where you are right now and boost your confidence to land your dream job.

Below are 3 tips to help you be more confident in yourself and your job search.

1. Pay Attention to Your Thoughts

For anyone who’s read some of my other work, you know how vital thought work is, as it impacts pretty much everything you do day-to-day.

If you are new to thought work, the easiest place to start is by simply noticing what you’re thinking as often as possible.

This is especially important for your job search because job searches by nature are often uncomfortable, and the outcome is unknown. This means that your brain will go into a tailspin as you chart new territory.

And, the best part is that it’s all completely normal.

Once you become aware of it, take it one step further and ask yourself, “is what I’m thinking right now moving me closer to the job I want or further away from it?” Then notice what comes up for you.

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Your thoughts are a lot like stories.

Not all stories are true. Some are based on myth and folklore, while others are based on actual events.

The stories you tell yourself are no different. Your thoughts are the stories that you’ve told yourself for so long that you believe they’re true.

I realize that this isn’t music to everyone’s ears. Maybe you have thoughts or beliefs that are especially near and dear to you, so the idea of them being half-true or not true may rub you the wrong way.

If they’re thoughts and beliefs that don’t serve you, though, what would it be like if they weren’t true?

What might you gain if finding your dream career was more important than you holding on to the stories and beliefs that are creating the unfulfillment you’re experiencing in your current job?

This is where good ole curiosity comes into the picture.

As you start noticing your thoughts, ask yourself whether what you’re thinking right now moves the needle toward the person you want to become.

If it’s something like: I’ll never get that job, I don’t have the qualifications. How is that making you feel?

Do you feel energized and invigorated by it?

Chances are that’s a negative.

You feel the opposite, and anything you do after that will come from a place of discouragement and hopelessness.

Alternatively, let’s say you notice yourself thinking, I’m going to get this job. I have all the qualifications, and I know I am the best person for this role. How do you feel?

You probably feel like it’s done; all you have to do is submit your resume and wait for a callback. And, when the callback comes, how do you think your interview will go compared to someone who doesn’t believe that they have a chance?

Once you become aware of your thoughts, it’s easy to be incredibly hard on yourself and judge yourself for every thought that doesn’t move you toward your goal.

Judging yourself for having thoughts won’t get you where you want to be in your job search or career, but showing yourself compassion and understanding will.

It’s easy to become your own worst critic, and when you do this, you squash the possibilities for greater self-confidence.

Showing yourself compassion and treating yourself like your best friend is a sure ticket to more confidence.

Your thoughts are more powerful than you think. Get really good at spotting the ones that don’t serve you, and then ask yourself where they’re coming from and what you can learn from them.

2. Start Feeling All of Your Emotions

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Noticing your thoughts is one of the most important aspects of thought work. And, by doing so, you can also start becoming aware of what emotions and feelings your thoughts spark when you think them.

It’s easy to feel good feelings like excitement, inspiration, enthusiasm, and creativity. But, it isn’t so much fun feeling things like discouragement, disappointment, failure, and fear.

Rather than feel these, most of us push them away. This was a significant block for me because, over the years, I put up a wall and was very reluctant to show any emotion. I was pretty much a walking computer, and it wasn’t a ton of fun.

Then I started working with my coach, and I learned to feel my emotions, especially those that didn’t feel so great.

For example: If you notice that you’re having a thought that you won’t get the job you so desperately want, notice how it makes you feel.

Get curious about the thought. Where is it coming from? What feeling is associated with it?

Being doubtful at times is part of being a human being. So, instead of telling yourself that you shouldn’t be doubtful, try something like, it’s okay to be doubtful as long as I don’t stay here.

You are a human being. You experience emotion on a scale, and it’s impossible and not healthy to only focus on feeling good all the time.

While it feels good to only focus on good emotions, ignoring your not-so-great feeling ones is setting yourself up for a big crash later down the road.

If you want to improve your confidence, start noticing all of your emotions. And, rather than pushing the not-so-great ones away, invite them in and learn from them.

If you’re doubting yourself, what thought is associated with the doubt? And, is it one that is moving you toward the life you want or further away from it?

Once you notice the thought and feel through the doubt (it’s totally normal), you can choose a different story about yourself so that you show up as the most confident version of yourself.

Learn how to live your best life faster.

My coaching program is all about getting you results.  I’ll help you to:

  • Improve Your Mindset
  • Find Your Passion
  • Grow Your Self Confidence
  • Overcome Your Fears
  • Land Your Dream Job
  • Make More Money
  • Be Happier
  • Develop Healthy Habits 
  • Improve Your Productivity
  • Identify Your Strengths
  • Set and Accomplish Meaningful Goals
  • Get Motivated
  • Overcome Procrastination 
  • Get More Life Clarity
  • Eliminate Distractions
  • Start Your Dream Business 
  • Overcome Fatigue and Burnout
  • Step into Your True Potential

3. Take Action from a Place of Inspiration

Once you start noticing your thoughts and feeling your emotions, you will likely notice how quickly you begin to feel better. And, when you start feeling better, what you do in the world will be completely different.

Rather than dragging by and giving 10-20% in your job search, you’ll start showing up differently and getting different results.

You’ll feel more optimistic about your job search, and the energy and effort you put into it will be completely different from when you were constantly second-guessing yourself and doubting your abilities.

Start taking action from a place of inspiration and excitement, really believing that you can do this and that you will eventually get your dream job!

To boost your confidence, I encourage my life coaching clients to find one action today that they can take right now and do it.

Action is one of the quickest ways to build your belief in yourself.

The first few times you do this, it will likely be uncomfortable, you may not believe in yourself, and you may even have to use some good ole’ willpower and force yourself to do whatever it is you decide.

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Let’s say you decide that working on your resume to match the industry you’re pursuing is the action you will take.

How could you approach rewriting your resume from a place of possibility and belief that it will land you an interview?

The first thing that came up for me when I started rewriting my resume was I didn’t want to do it. I didn’t want to do it because I believed I didn’t know what I was doing and that I’d make a mistake, which would mean game over.

But I did it anyway.

I acknowledged that I didn’t want to do it, didn’t judge myself for thinking that, and did it anyway.

I told myself that dreading doing my resume was normal. Who sat down excited to rewrite a resume?

And, when I did this, the resistance I had about rewriting my resume became more manageable. And, I sat down and got started.

And, the weirdest thing happened, the more I did, the more excited I got because I was working toward something that meant a lot to me.

Getting started is often the most challenging part. Once you start seeing what you’ve accomplished, you’re more likely to keep going, even if it’s uncomfortable.

And, when you have something to show for your effort, especially when you don’t want to, you feel better about yourself and what you’re capable of doing.

Before you know it, you’ll stand back in disbelief because of all the actions you’ve taken from a place of compassion and inspiration. You’ll start landing interviews, getting offers, and landing your dream gig.

And, before long, you’ll begin to believe you can do it because all that stands between you and your dream career is you.

Learn how to live your best life faster.

My coaching program is all about getting you results.  I’ll help you to:

  • Improve Your Mindset
  • Find Your Passion
  • Grow Your Self Confidence
  • Overcome Your Fears
  • Land Your Dream Job
  • Make More Money
  • Be Happier
  • Develop Healthy Habits 
  • Improve Your Productivity
  • Identify Your Strengths
  • Set and Accomplish Meaningful Goals
  • Get Motivated
  • Overcome Procrastination 
  • Get More Life Clarity
  • Eliminate Distractions
  • Start Your Dream Business 
  • Overcome Fatigue and Burnout
  • Step into Your True Potential

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PS.

If you’re interested in becoming more confident in yourself and your career, then I can help.

Imagine having the confidence to be yourself in your next job interview?

To be vulnerable and show them the real you without pretending to be someone or something you’re not because you’re afraid you won’t get the job.

How would that feel, and how might your life change if you started believing in yourself and all you can achieve?

If you’re tired of selling yourself short and ready to start creating a life and career that reflects your true potential, click the link here to set up a consult call where we’ll get to know more about each other, discuss your situation, and determine if life coaching can help.

You can create a better future for yourself. Why not start now?

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